(NEWS CENTER Maine) – Hey, all you singles! Congratulations on surviving another Valentine’s Day.

This week on Therapy Thursday, licensed marriage and family therapist Jack Burke offered some thoughts on being single in what often feels like a couples’ world.

Jack says there are three things you should know right off the bat:

  1. "Single" is not a diagnosis.
  2. "Single" is not a condition.
  3. "Single" is just what we are until we are something else.

But if you are waiting and hoping for a relationship, Jack says there are two things he would encourage you to do.

First, put some energy into "knowing what you want." The clearer the picture of what you are looking for, the better your chances of meeting that someone. Are you ready for a life-mate? Do you just want someone with whom to have fun? This is not a list of qualities to find in another person. Rather, it's a matter of figuring out what complements you and your lifestyle.

Second, the very best way to find someone to love is to be someone lovable. We do that by liking and loving ourselves. It's an attractive quality.